Episode 1 — Misconceptions

PAYTON SWENSON  // www.swenhome.com @paytonswen

w/ PAYTON SWENSON

www.swenhome.com // @paytonswen

Meet Payton, founder of NY based SWENHOME, interior stylist, former model, and New Yorker — a powerhouse of a woman and also our very first guest!

 

ABOUT THIS EPISODE —

At some point or another, we've all faced a situation that has got us thinking — is this really happening?! So we thought, what better way to start off the conversation than to chat about how we perceive misconceptions.

Inder and Ishprit are joined by interior stylist, former model and New Yorker, Payton Swenson. Payton's modelling career began at the age to 6 through to her early twenties. Born and raised in Florida — adopted into a Jewish Family — modelling took Payton to New York, where she set forth on a journey of self discovery and awareness. She'd been on the receiving end of misconceptions her entire adolescent life. Tune in to listen to how it shaped her into the person she is today... and to learn a bit more about Ishprit and I. Because, lets face it. We're sure you've got your misconceptions about us 😏.

PS. Payton is a legend!! She's sent us ALL her pics she talks about in the episode from her early modelling days. Enjoy!

NOTEWORTHY MOMENTS —

I learnt how to socialise with adults before I learnt how to socialise with children.
— Payton (09:08)
Some women, they grow into their look. I think I grew out of mine.
— Payton (11:07)
People like stuff now that is a little bit more real, which is why women are modelling a little more age appropriate. When I was 14, I was modelling as a sexy adult woman.
— Payton (12:24)
When I was 20 or 21 years old they cast me as a young mum with a 10 year old girl at my side. I remember thinking..You know, I don’t really want to tell this story. I don’t want to be a part of this that tells women what they should look like when they have a ten year old child.
— Payton (15:55)
You’re a different kind of student. Student doesn’t just mean books and school.
— Ishprit (18:21)
I was really good at being patient and coaching people through letting go of the stuff that was no longer serving them.
— Payton (19:10)
In your 20’s, you’re still figuring out your place in the world...you’re kind of unlearning your childhood.
— Inder (19:40)
A lot of people, when I tell that that I’m Jewish, they’ll press...because I don’t look Jewish to them.
— Payton (21:32)
Now I like to push it. I like to let people sit with the discomfort of what they just said.
— Payton (22:52)
Us as a society, are trained to put beauty on this pedestal…We’re now more aware as a society, in this generation, to not allow children to be trained to associate approval with their physical looks.
— Inder (24:30)
I wanted to get away from that feeling of being beholden to a husband or my family… I had to go to this other extreme. I had to know what it was like to struggle and to work for myself and earn things.
— Payton (30:12)
I am much less likely to tell somebody else what their experience is. I’m much more likely to listen to what their experience is and try to understand it.
— Payton (34:46)
Human connection is the killer of shame.
— Payton (35:14)
The more I get to know somebody who is different than me, I think the smarter I’ll be, and the more connections I’ll be able to make with other people.
— Payton (35:26)
Be kind to everyone, man! Everyone’s going through a battle and facing something.
— Ishprit (38:10)
[I had just read] that you have a physiological reaction to a thought for about 8 seconds…and then after that, you have the choice to say I can keep feeling this feeling or I can use my brain and move on and think about something else.
— Payton (40:03)
We have so much control over our mind, if we allow it to have control.
— Inder (43:17)
We’re all really starting to understand how we have been treating each other poorly…there’s more information out there that’s bringing light to the fact that we have so much to fix, and this is where it starts…by unlearning the misconceptions.
— Ishprit (46:05)

SHOW NOTES —

Music for this episode was provided by wisechild // www.wisechildsounds.com. You can find his stuff at soundcloud.com/wisechildsounds.

Payton mentions the following book near the end of the episode (39:00) :
The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
by Miguel Ruiz

In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.
The Four Agreements are:
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don't Take Anything Personally
Don't Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best

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