Episode 5 — The Bystander Effect


w/ Inder & Ish

Not to make this episode too heavy, but lets chat moral responsibility for a minute. Ever find yourself witnessing something that makes you stop in your tracks? Or really shakes you to your core so much so that you can't get it out of your head for days? You replay it in your mind and play out the different ways you could or should have reacted/acted/intervened. Yet, it wasn't your place. Or at least, you convince yourself that.

In this episode, we chat about The Bystander Effect — We share with you the research based evidence that supports/founded the phenomenon of the bystander effect, Inder and Ish share some of their stories of when they were observers of uncomfortable experiences and we discuss how to counter the way our minds have been wired to react in these sorts of situations.

Please note — this episode contains stories of the sensitive nature and may not be for the faint hearted.


The bystander effect is a social a social/psychological phenomenon where individuals are less likely to offer help to a victim when other people are present.
— Ishprit (03:30)
Individuals in a group monitor the behavior of those around them to determine how they should act — by everybody doing that, as a result, nobody is doing anything.
— Inder (05:10)
Please don’t mistake this as us trying to pump ourselves up — We’re just trying to share these uncomfortable situations with you so hopefully you can use them as some sort of inspiration to give you courage when you’re faced with it.
— Inder (10:14)
Calling out or letting the perpetrator know that the victim is not alone is a simple way of stopping the incidence.
— Inder (20:05)
We’re lacking morality as an entire people and we just don’t care about what happens to the people around us and we only care for ourselves or the people that are directly related to us.
— Ishprit (37:12)
Simply being aware of this tendency is perhaps the greatest way to break the cycle
— Kendra Cherry (43:57)
Awareness is the very first step — just being aware helps because you don’t necessarily always have to be a hero in these types of situations. You can also be the person who is simply calling 911.
— Ishprit (45:00)


Articles cited in this episode can be found below :

Please note: at 00:43:57 I cite the incorrect article. The correct article is — The Bystander Effect: Why Bystanders Sometimes Fail to Help 👇

verywell MIND — The Bystander Effect: Why Bystanders Sometimes Fail to Helphttps://www.verywellmind.com/the-bystander-effect-2795899

Psychology Today — What is the Bystander Effect https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/bystander-effect

verywell MIND — How to Overcome the Bystander Effecthttps://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-overcome-the-bystander-effect-2795559

Psychology Today — Our Power as Active Bystanders : https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-the-garden-good-and-evil/201201/our-power-active-bystanders

Inder Dhillon